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To those friends that Ive reached out to and to those I will reach out to all I want to say is THANK YOU!
Is independence mistaken for self centered?
My wife as well , has called me very self centered. To tell you the truth, she has never resented my boating....weekend warrior at best, 1 maybe 2 weekends out of the month. What she seems to resent is the fact that I have a good time without her...... and she doesn't understand it. She has always been a very needy person.....she needs a lot of attention and I thought Ive always shown it....apparently not as with kids older(17/13) she has realized that there is nothing in her life to make her happy, kids are getting independent... and has realized she isn't in love with me anymore. If anything I resent the fact that she has not been able to join me for a weekend. Or just paddled on a lake....anything. Or just show some interest in my life. But if the boating, camping outdoors thing is not her cup of tea...thats cool.
For 15yrs was a USCF/NORBA cyclist and same thing..."all you think about is riding".....its not our boating thats the perceived problem with significant others, its anything that we get enjoyment from thats not them. Its the fact that yes, we love them with all our hearts, but we have other passions. My wife said she doesnt feel like she is the center of my universe. Sorry but she was, just that my universe has other things that make me happy. People need their own likes/dislikes, you cannot be happy through someone else.....happiness comes from within.
Im sure this is a bit rambling.....my heart is broken, Im tired crying at my desk and red lights....people must think Im freaking nuts. Right now Im actually looking forward to some boating but need to concentrate on my children.
I actually wish that she had an affair on me so I could have some hatred and some sort of answer for what is happening.
Again self centered or just independent................Chris
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Ive just started on the divorce path after 23yrs of friggin' marriage... New 
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