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 I'm in the same situation (but earlier) please read and help! New
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Re:  Do you have to be somewhat self centered to be a whitewater paddler? Some of my boater friends with a non paddling... Ed_E.Hopper New
Re:  Ive just started on the divorce path after 23yrs of friggin' marriage... greyhound1 New
Date: May 13 2008, 7:42 GMT
From: Kankles420
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I've been dating my gf for over a year now. We've lived together for 8 months. She is my world, I love the girl to death. She just doesn't understand the passion for kayaking. I've never met someone that has treated me as good as this girl has. She has a great job and everything seems like it would be great.
The thing is, I don't really paddle anymore. We've had conversations about this that have turned heated. I guess I have some resentment towards her regarding this subject. She's a very emotionally needy person. She doesn't want me going any where with out her. I even agreed that she could go most of the time, just every now and then it would be nice to have a guy's weekend with some of the guys. Not having to worry about her fun, just my own every now and then. It's come to the point that she realizes the reason that I have proposed to her is because of the kayaking deal. I can't go the rest of my life just paddling a few times a year. It's a huge hangup in our relationship. If we could just get past this things would be great, but not sure if it will ever happen. The bad thing is, I love the girl to death and don't want her out of my life. It's almost like I have to choose and it sucks. I've spent many of hours thinking about this and it's just very very hard to deal with. I've got her a boat and she wants to learn, but I'm really not sure I want to share that part of my life, we share everything together and I've always thought that would be my time. I guess I am selfish in that way.
It's getting to the point now where I have to make a decision and I hate it. I try to avoid it, which is wrong, but that's what happens. She just doesn't understand. The thing that makes it so hard is that last year (before I met her) It was the most fun I've ever had. I paddled more last year then any year in my life and it's the most fun in one year I've ever had. Just not ready to give that up. I've let myself get out of shape this year to the point that I'll almost have to get back in shape before I step that paddling back up to a decent level.
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 Dump her, marry GRITS, live and boat happily ever after. <NT> Strong_Bad New -
 No can do... I'm off the market. <NT> GRITS New -
 got a keeper! <NT> tiskemanis New
 You already know the answer, man. Turtle81 New -
- Werd! <NT> hardboater New
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